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gridlore

Husband of 18+ years.

firestrike

My "new/old love." We spent three years getting to where we ultimately knew we were going, which makes for a wonderful balance between the comfort of a long-standing relationship and the thrill of discovery.

jilesa

...It's Complicated™. We were girlfriends for many years; we still love each other; there's just a lot of Life in the way that we can't sort out.

murphymom

My real-life, honest-to-ghod mother. Yeah, she really is that cool. ;-)

apandaleaf

My half-sister, set to graduate from UCLA this spring. She rocks like a room full of rocking chairs.

n_1_n

My half-brother. He appears to have vacated LJ for MySpazz and/or Facebook.

isomeme

gridlore's brother; father of madelineusher.

baka49er

My mother-in-law, who has an account solely to read our f'locked posts.

1. My journal is 75%+ public. There have been periods where I have defaulted to friends-only for one reason or another; the most recent of these began 21 August 2009. There may be periods in the future where I choose to do so again. I will announce this if and when it happens.
   
2. You are always welcome to add me to your friends list, but know that I am exceedingly picky about who I add to mine, as I have trouble managing it as it is. Priority is given to people with whom I have a long-standing acquaintance (either online or in meatspace). People who find me via friendsfriends or common communities should mail me a brief introduction if they'd like to be added. If I don't, it's nothing personal.
   
3. Comments are always welcome, save when they are disabled. Anonymous and non-friend comments are screened, but will be unscreened in most cases. Commenting on an unrelated post to bring drama will almost certainly result in a prompt defriending. Bringing drama in any way will almost certainly result in a prompt defriending. Don't bring drama.
   
4. I purge my friends list erratically. There are many reasons for this, but here's the jist:
   
   
   • Lack of rapport. This can be defined in several ways, but it's pretty simple. If I don't feel like I know you after some amount of time, I'll likely purge.
     
   • Continued overload of emo/drama. If the majority of your posts are talking about how much your life sucks, and there's really no sign of change, then I'll likely purge. This is a more subjective condition, given that I know from direct experience that everyone has dark times, and I'm big on second (and third) chances. But sometimes, enough is enough.
     
   • General purge. See point 2 above.
   
   I used to announce these purges in my journal, but it was pointed out to me that making such announcements was likely causing the drama I was attempting to avoid. Thus, this disclaimer.

	My Dating Status Button says: Polyamorous, Bisexual, Involved/Available
Polyamorous	Interested in multiple serious relationships.
Bisexual	Interested in both male and female.
Involved/Available	Currently in a relationship, and potentially interested in more.* * It would be more accurate to state at this time, in the words of alt.poly, that I'm "not not-looking." If a relationship should happen to fall into my lap (perhaps literally *grin*), I won't dismiss it, but I'm not actively seeking one out.

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