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| User: | kshandra (69080) 
Climbing Mt. Normal
The Gospel According to St. Bastard
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| Name: | Wanton Idealist |
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| Location: | San Jose, California, United States |
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I occasionally post adult material to this journal; underage viewers should not proceed. This warning is made in cooperation with LiveJournal's request for such statements.
Dramatis Personae:
![[info]](http://p-stat.livejournal.com/img/userinfo.gif) gridlore
- Husband of 16.5 years.
- jilesa
- My long-distance girlfriend. It's been three years since I saw her last, and I miss her.
- murphymom
- My real-life, honest-to-ghod mother. Yeah, she really is that cool. ;-)
- apandaleaf
- My half-sister, currently in her second year at UCLA. She rocks like a room full of rocking chairs.
- n_1_n
- My half-brother. He appears to have vacated LJ for MySpazz.
- isomeme
- gridlore's brother; married to laurellady, father of madelineusher.
- baka49er
- My mother-in-law, who has an account solely to read our f'locked posts.
Guidelines for public posts/friending/defriending:
- My journal is 75%+ public. There have been periods where I have defaulted to friends-only for one reason or another;
there may be periods in the future where I choose to do so again. I will announce this if and when it happens. the most recent of these began on 23 March 2008.
- You are always welcome to add me to your friends list, but know that I am exceedingly picky about who I add to mine, as I have trouble managing it as it is. Priority is given to people with whom I have a long-standing acquaintance (either online or in meatspace). People who find me via friendsfriends or common communities should mail me a brief introduction if they'd like to be added. If I don't, it's nothing personal.
- Comments are always welcome, save when they are disabled. Anonymous and non-friend comments are screened, but will be unscreened in most cases. Commenting on an unrelated post to bring drama will almost certainly result in a prompt defriending. Bringing drama in any way will almost certainly result in a prompt defriending. Don't bring drama.
- I purge my friends list erratically. There are many reasons for this, but here's the jist:
- Lack of rapport. This can be defined in several ways, but it's pretty simple. If I don't feel like I know you after some amount of time, I'll likely purge.
- Continued overload of emo/drama. If the majority of your posts are talking about how much your life sucks, and there's really no sign of change, then I'll likely purge. This is a more subjective condition, given that I know from direct experience that everyone has dark times, and I'm big on second (and third) chances. But sometimes, enough is enough.
- General purge. See point 2 above.
I used to announce these purges in my journal, but it was pointed out to me that making such announcements was likely causing the drama I was attempting to avoid. Thus, this disclaimer.
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My Dating Status Button says:
Polyamorous, Bisexual, Involved/Available |
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Polyamorous
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Interested in multiple serious relationships.
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Bisexual
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Interested in both male and female.
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Involved/Available
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Currently in a relationship, and potentially interested in more.*
* It would be more accurate to state at this time, in the words of alt.poly, that I'm "not not-looking." If a relationship should happen to fall into my lap (perhaps literally *grin*), I won't dismiss it, but I'm not actively seeking one out.
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| Memories: | 60 entries |
| Pictures: | over 100 public |
| Interests: | 149: )'(, ♥, )'(, 5-minute-refresh, 80's music, amplectere potestem "et", anne mccaffrey, art, backrubs, barry manilow, bbw, bdsm, bisexuality, black rock city, blade runner, bodyart, bondage, books, braided hair, burning man, chocolate, chosen family, cilantro is nasty, cleavage, clubbing, commitment, communication, communication fetishist, compersion, conventions, corsets, crochet, cuddling, dance, dancing, david bowie, david weber, depeche mode, depression, dirty jokes, dragons, drinking, drums, duchovniks, duran duran, dvds, edward gorey, eighties music, equally large boa, erotica, family, fandom, fetish, fetishwear, filk, fire, flirting, food, fountain pens, freedom, full-contact flirtation, good communication, heather alexander, honesty, hot tubs, howard jones, hugging, hugs, i <3 >1, i ♥ >1, impulsiveness, intelligence, jewelry, karaoke, ken nordine, kissing, knitting, laughter, learning, leather, leslie fish, livejournal, long hair, love, make-believe, max headroom, monty python, movies, moxy früvous, mozilla, mp3s, music, nethack, old love, palmpilot, penn & teller, playa, polyamory, polyfamilies, polyfidelity, polyfolk, purple, puzzle pirates, queer, rain, reading, rhps, robert heinlein, rocky horror picture show, romance, rubenesque, safer sex, sapiosexuality, sarcasm, scharffen berger chocolate, sci-fi, science fiction, science fiction conventions, science fiction fandom, sensuality, sex, sexuality, sf, sf bay area, sfbayarea, silliness, singing, sleep, snuggling, spider robinson, stalking firestrike, sushi, tattoos, tea and sympathy, teddy bears, thinking, thomas dolby, tim burton, time well spent, tom smith, touch, touching, trex, vampires, watercourse way, women, word jazz, xxxenophile, yarn |
| Schools: | Milliken Elementary School - Santa Clara, CA (1975 - 1980)
Erikson Elementary School - San Jose, CA (1980 - 1982)
Lowell Elementary School - San Jose, CA (1981 - 1982)
Castillero Middle School - San Jose, CA (1982 - 1983)
Bernal Intermediate School - San Jose, CA (1983 - 1984)
Archbishop Mitty High School - San Jose, CA (1984 - 1986)
Milpitas High School - Milpitas, CA (1986 - 1988)
College of San Mateo - San Mateo, CA (1988 - 1989)
Opportunities Industrialization Center West - Menlo Park, CA (2004)
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| Friends: | | 304: | 1ferritgurl, 64tbird, _duncan, a_little_peril, agengrgal, aiela, always_bryn, amaebi, amberica, annathenerd, apandaleaf, ashbet, ataniell93, aurictech, autographedcat, azhalaril, baka49er, banesidhe, baratron, baxil, beki, bellacrow, benkenobigal, bestestdog, betnoir, bfly, bkwrrm_tx, blackfyr, blankreloaded, blue_oryx, blueashke, boobiebar, bosn, bovil, britgeekgrrl, browngirl, bunyip, butterfly_smile, cagekitten, camille, capplor, cekyr0, chaoswolf, charlottesmtms, cherylmmorgan, chiefted, chriso, christophine, ciannait, claire, clawfoot, creo_arte, cruz531, cymrullewes, dafydd, dakron, damongolian, dandelion_diva, darthgeek, dave_over, davehogg, deadvodkabunny, deyo, dirtwitch, dizzdvl, dmmaus, docwebster, donpaul, dragon_spirit, drewkitty, dubhtaobh, dwo, eleccham, eleri, elite, elynne, elynne_smut, epi_lj, ericsadventure, etesla, fabricdragon, faireblondie, faithwallis, fangrrl_squees, faxpaladin, fernblatt, figbash, filkertom, fimbrethil, firecat, firestrike, flower_cat, fusijui, fuzzface00, gconnor, genuine_snark, gina_gwynne, glinda_w, gloraelin, gnowun, goddessdarksoul, greyman, gridlore, griffen, grimmwire, gritsinmisery, grrltechie, grubbyfeet, grygon, guppiecat, guruwench, halirin, hamadryad, hederaivy, hellloooonurse, highglider, hitchhiker, hnybny, hopeforyou, iamjw, iceblink, isomeme, jagnightwalker, jakestone, janetmiles, jannypanlj, jarlsberg71, jasonwarlock, jay_jay, jeffercine, jemstone, jennkitty, jenny_junipurr, jenx, jilesa, joedecker, johnnyeponymous, johno, johnpalmer, johnthewysard, jordan_avon, josette, justnate, kadyg, kalmn, karenbynight, karlht, karmabreeze, kat_box, kath8562, kayre, kengr, kevin_standlee, kightp, kjpepper, klwalton, kor27, kshandra, kyburg, ladycrim, ladyotterfae, ladythmpr, ldyicefire, ldymusyc, le_sirenee, leiacat, lexica510, lisa_marli, lizardling, lizzibabe, loveyerlife, luzmaria8, lysana, m_lewis, mactavish, madelineusher, mahadev, maiandra, mamagnome, maraud, markobellydance, mdlbear, medancer, meezergal, megalion, meglimir, melchar, micheinnz, misanthrope_mom, mslorelei, mslulu, murphymom, muskrat_john, mvmedic, n_1_n, nolly, nuttn_to_prove, okoshun, onetruegrits, onyxdubh, originalmanley, ororo, otherbill, paka, pantera_chan, peaberry, pentaclemoon, perfessorevil, perlandria, phantomdancer, phinnia, pixie0fd00m, plymouth, polly_moller, pookahchu, porcinea, princesskiti22, princessmei, pullthestars, pusifoot, ravan, realmjit, redstreets, redtheda, rmjwell, rockythecat, roseate1, rsmit212, rubynye, ryland, sailorjim, sailorv61, sajazz, sammy_grrrl, saoba, sazhda, sbisson, scooting, scotis_man, sebab, segajenison, serenejournal, shadowcat48li, shaysdays, silkensteel, sirilyan, skwishmi, smileystickman, snafflekid, snowwy, soobunny, sossity, spiderdust, spiritualmonkey, spurkycreations, sputnik, squigglz, sroth, starsongky, stone_princess, stonebender, sugar_in_action, sundart, sunyata__, supersniffles, suzimoses, switchkitty, sylvan, tattycat, technopatra, teddywolf, tetralizard, tgeller, the_ogre, thebostondyke, thegoodmo, tigerbright, timenchanter, tinafoo, toddandpenguin, tongodeon, toymaker, ttocs, tww1fa, uloixia, unbeliever64, unibear, univacgrl, urbanwolfie, urox, valiaderekin, vaxjedi, wcg, webulous, weibchenwolf, wendor, wherever, wild_irises, wookiee71, wordweaverlynn, yarnpirate, yohannon, zahraa, zyxwvut |  | 120: | 500year_diary, awesomecostume, bacon_lovers, basfa, baycon, bayconcostumers, bbw_bellydancer, bdsmdiy, bellydancegear, bellydancing, bestoffreecycle, bi_the_bay, bigdamnknitters, bipolypagangeek, bomb_shelter_r, bunnywarez, burning_man, callahanians, cat_macros, comicstripicons, con_central, consonance_con, costume_con, costume_snark, crafty_tardis, crochetcrochet, dinner_and, doctorwho, dollerotica, domestic_snark, dot_bdsm_snark, dot_book_snark, dot_cattiness, dot_dot_snark, dot_mousiness, dot_omgwtf, dot_poly_snark, dot_sca_cat, dragoncats_den, duchovniks, duran_duran, dw_cosplay, dykes2watchout4, e_cito, eleriaddiction, eleripets, fancrafted, fandom_counts, fandomknit, fat_art, fireflyfans, flounce_o_rama, foodie_haven, found_cattiness, freestuff, furcon, geek_cooks, ghetto_gastro, heartdivide, helpers, holiday_wishes, ihasatardis, iron_trash, knitandcrochet, knitting, koc_luvrs, lj_maintenance, lj_nifty, ljgenie, loeg, lolscience, lolyamory, m15m, mastersgarden, metaquotes, nerd_plumage, nerdyanna, news, offhand_manor, overheardinsf, pagingdrlj, paidmembers, permmembers, plushtrip, pocketlj, poly_news, potagebourgeois, power_loss, ptcruisers, purl_n_hurl, puzzle_pirates, radionosferatu, san_jose_pride, sanjose, sapiosexual, sbof, sequin_vomit, sf_browncoats, sf_for_free, sfba_sf_fans, sfbay_bdsm, siliconventions, slow_poke_poly, spellfecker, stupid_free, sunset_and_port, tas_baycon, templeofthecat, the_davison_den, the_lj_herald, tmi_chix, trashy_eats, userpicks, w00t_comic, weasels, westercons, what_a_crock, whatwasthatbook, who_knits, whooligan |  | 35: | blanktop_rss, blogthings, britgeekblog, bunnycomic, bunnycomicblog, christophine23, chukkasupport, cjh_books, crackerjackhart, cuteoverload, dailykitten, darthsanddroids, dorktowerfeed, dykestwofstrip, gdrewkitty, hascheezburger, irregularcomic3, kfog_blog, lovehate_feed, miniballybran, motorcitysports, nerdpr0n, nodwick_feed, philospheasy, postsecret, pratchettmatch, ps238_feed, rylandland, sailor_jim, sjgames, snopes_dot_com, splend_ad, stuffonmycat, twolumps_feed, xkcd_rss |
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| Mutual Friends: | 296: 1ferritgurl, 64tbird, _duncan, a_little_peril, agengrgal, aiela, always_bryn, amaebi, amberica, annathenerd, apandaleaf, ashbet, ataniell93, aurictech, autographedcat, azhalaril, baka49er, banesidhe, baratron, baxil, beki, bellacrow, benkenobigal, bestestdog, betnoir, bfly, bkwrrm_tx, blackfyr, blankreloaded, blue_oryx, blueashke, bosn, bovil, britgeekgrrl, browngirl, bunyip, butterfly_smile, cagekitten, camille, capplor, cekyr0, chaoswolf, charlottesmtms, cherylmmorgan, chiefted, chriso, christophine, ciannait, claire, clawfoot, creo_arte, cymrullewes, dafydd, dakron, damongolian, dandelion_diva, darthgeek, dave_over, davehogg, deadvodkabunny, deyo, dirtwitch, dizzdvl, dmmaus, docwebster, donpaul, dragon_spirit, drewkitty, dubhtaobh, dwo, eleccham, eleri, elite, elynne, elynne_smut, epi_lj, ericsadventure, etesla, fabricdragon, faireblondie, faithwallis, fangrrl_squees, faxpaladin, fernblatt, figbash, filkertom, fimbrethil, firecat, firestrike, flower_cat, fusijui, fuzzface00, gconnor, genuine_snark, gina_gwynne, glinda_w, gloraelin, gnowun, goddessdarksoul, greyman, gridlore, griffen, grimmwire, gritsinmisery, grrltechie, grubbyfeet, grygon, guppiecat, guruwench, halirin, hamadryad, hederaivy, hellloooonurse, highglider, hitchhiker, hnybny, hopeforyou, iamjw, iceblink, isomeme, jagnightwalker, jakestone, janetmiles, jannypanlj, jarlsberg71, jasonwarlock, jay_jay, jeffercine, jemstone, jennkitty, jenx, jilesa, joedecker, johnnyeponymous, johno, johnpalmer, johnthewysard, jordan_avon, josette, justnate, kadyg, kalmn, karenbynight, karlht, karmabreeze, kat_box, kath8562, kayre, kengr, kevin_standlee, ... |
| Also Friend of: | 100: amacker, apel, arib, ashi, azhdragon, backtick, brigideire, brislayer, bsquad, caittanner, catchild, catsoul, celtae, champagne_frost, charlesks, clubsatori, colinstu, courtcat, daemonfaeries, dimakoi, djenk, djmermaid, dr_whuh, dreamflow, elfwreck, facets808, fangorn, femakita, figmo, fjm, fr_john, freyjaw, fuse_sat, futabachan, fuzzydragon, gh4acws, gravity_probe_b, grillghod, h2ocrazyguy, hmms_sio, imanotalone, incoherent_feet, indyellen, insomnia, itsmika, j9z_dream_journ, jackal_logic, jb98, jezredfern, jls123, johnathan, karlito1984, katster, kennita, khanfused, kineticphoenix, lyricagent, maggiemayday, mostlikely2, ncc_1701_d, neongraal, netquiddler, newtommorow, nodakwriter, noressa, odanu, ogreon, omimouse, opportunitygrrl, pathfindress, pauamma, pbrim, penngwyn, pivyca, purplefrog26, quadprincess, rickvs, rightsock, roserock, rowanf, scarletstar, shadopanther, singshot, smcwhort, soho_sat, spiritrover, star_dusting, stitch27, surlytart, suzilem, thbeatnik, time_freak, tracytreefrog, tsjafo, unkaphaed, whytestar, wichiwoman, winterpirate, yppclementine, zakueins |
| Member of: | 120: 500year_diary, awesomecostume, bacon_lovers, basfa, baycon, bayconcostumers, bbw_bellydancer, bdsmdiy, bellydancegear, bellydancing, bestoffreecycle, bi_the_bay, bigdamnknitters, bipolypagangeek, bomb_shelter_r, bunnywarez, burning_man, callahanians, cat_macros, comicstripicons, con_central, consonance_con, costume_con, costume_snark, crafty_tardis, crochetcrochet, dinner_and, doctorwho, dollerotica, domestic_snark, dot_bdsm_snark, dot_book_snark, dot_cattiness, dot_dot_snark, dot_mousiness, dot_omgwtf, dot_poly_snark, dot_sca_cat, dragoncats_den, duchovniks, duran_duran, dw_cosplay, dykes2watchout4, e_cito, eleriaddiction, eleripets, fancrafted, fandom_counts, fandomknit, fat_art, fireflyfans, flounce_o_rama, foodie_haven, found_cattiness, freestuff, furcon, geek_cooks, gender_petition, ghetto_gastro, heartdivide, helpers, holiday_wishes, ihasatardis, iron_trash, knitandcrochet, knitting, koc_luvrs, lj_nifty, ljgenie, loeg, lolscience, lolyamory, m15m, mastersgarden, metaquotes, mock_the_stupid, nerd_plumage, nerdyanna, offhand_manor, overheardinsf, pagingdrlj, paidmembers, permmembers, plushtrip, pocketlj, poly_news, polyamory, potagebourgeois, power_loss, ptcruisers, purl_n_hurl, puzzle_pirates, radionosferatu, san_jose_pride, sanjose, sapiosexual, sbof, sequin_vomit, sf_browncoats, sf_for_free, sfba_sf_fans, sfbay_bdsm, siliconventions, slow_poke_poly, spellfecker, stupid_free, sunset_and_port, tas_baycon, templeofthecat, the_davison_den, tmi_chix, trashy_eats, userpicks, w00t_comic, weasels, westercons, what_a_crock, whatwasthatbook, who_knits, whooligan |
| Account type: | Permanent Account |
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